“Everybody I know that goes to marriage counseling gets divorced.”
That’s a complaint I hear sometimes about marriage counseling.
Perhaps that reflects fears people have about their marriage, i.e., that it’s in bad shape, and that will become obvious in the counseling process. That is a possibility, but if you have a clear idea of the problems, you get a clear idea of howto help the problems, or how to manage better with the problems. Knowing what is going wrong can be important, regardless of whether the marriage can be helped, or not. That knowledge not only can empower you in the marriage, it can help you prevent future mistakes if the marriage doesn’t work.
It can be scary coming to a marriage counselor. You don’t know if the counselor can help. It’s hard to let a stranger in on your private life; it’s hard to be exposed, but more people are helped greatly to have better relationships, more love, better sex, and happier lives.